Recently, I was faced with a very difficult decision. I was faced with either compromising my relationship with a friend or compromising my relationship with my Lord God. If I chose my friend all things around me would remain the same and there would be no break in our relationship. However; if I chose to keep my relationship safe with my friend I would be in direct disobedience of what God was specifically telling me to do.
After agonizing over my decision, I knew what I had to do & ask the Lord for strength to obey. He answered my prayer.
The days & weeks following my decision were horrible. My relationship with my friend was broken and will never be the same again. This was agonizing for me. I prayed that God would restore our friendship, that one day she would understand why I made the decision I did. She weighed heavy on my mind. As I continued to pray a verse I didn’t expect began to flow through my mind.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and hi will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6I had done a study of this verse last year in preparation for a talk I gave to a mom’s group. I went back to my notes to review and was surprised by the reassurance I gained from it.
Trust= the act of leaning on. Not standing in your own strength or abilities. To relay on someone or something for support and strength.
My visual picture in my mind is my leaning against a strong mature tree. The tree is supporting most of my weight.
Trusting in the Lord means I do not trust in myself and I definitely do not trust in others more than I trust in the Lord. I do not rely on myself or others for wisdom and strength. I don’t do what seems right. I don’t do what feels right. I do what is right, because I am trusting in the Lord. The decision I had to make didn’t seem right or feel right, but it was clear what I was to do and I know have to trust the Lord that He knows what is right.
“with all my heart”
Trusting the Lord with all my heart means that I don’t sort of trust him. I don’t trust him when it is convenient or easy. I don’t trust him in some area’s of my life and not in others. I trust him with all my heart! With all of me, my mind, emotions, spirit; I trust him.
“Lean not on your own understanding”
This tells us what not to do, because if we are doing it we are not trusting him with all our heart. Do not lean on your own understanding. Remember the tree? Trusting him is like leaning against the big strong tree. The tree is obviously my God. It supports me, provides shelter and rest. If I am leaning on my own understanding, that is like leaning against a small new tree.
This tree in the picture looks much like a tree in our front yard. It is very small with a small trunk & if I leaned against it, I would push it over. It cannot provide me with shelter or rest. It would not support me at all.
If I am depending on my own understanding, it is much like me relying on this little tree to hold me up. My understanding is covered in sin and selfishness. My understanding only brings me trouble. It is very dangerous for one to depend on human wisdom alone.
Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”Our world is all about doing what feels right. Or doing what others think you should do. Many times in the life of a believer, we will stand alone as we trust in the Lord with all our heart and lean not on our own understanding.
“In all your ways acknowledge Him”
This is a call for total, unwavering commitment in trust for obedience in all things. ALL THINGS. Not some things, not just the things that will make us look good to others, all things. In all we do, acknowledge him. This is a mental and emotional awareness of who God is. I can tell you that as hard as it was to go forward and obey what God was telling me to do, the reassurance of knowing my God is what gave me the strength I needed to obey. I knew he knows better than I do, I knew that he knew my friends’ heart better than I did, I knew that he is sovereign and His will is always done.
By obeying God, I was acknowledging him as the Sovereign Lord in my life. By trusting him and not relying on my own wimpy understanding and as I obeyed what he told me to do, I acknowledged him. The rest of the verse is the promise of a blessing when we trust him.
“…and he will make your paths straight.”
He will guide us, strengthen us and give us the wisdom we need to handle whatever comes next. That is where I am right now; trusting God to give me the wisdom I need to handle the effects my decision had on my friend of whom I love so much.
My God is so faithful even when I am not, why would I not want to trust him. He has never failed me. It is I who has failed him, yet he continues to keep his promises to me.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6