Friday, July 30, 2010

Guest post on The Confident Mom Blog

I'm a guest blogger at The Confident Mom blog today.  This is my second time to be asked by Susan & it is always a pleasure.  She has a great site & fantastic ministry dedicated to empowering mothers to live to God's glory.

Go to The Confident Mom to read my post on "Gettin' Your God Time" which is based off of a talk that I have done to several groups.

Thanks Susan for allowing me to share some encouragement with your readers!


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Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Celebrating 20

I'm talking anniversary's here.

The 1st is special because we actually made it a whole year & not many thought we would.  We broke all the rules when it comes to how long you should know someone before you say "I do".  On our wedding day, Scott & I had known each other exactly 11 months & 2 weeks.  According to statistics, our chances of staying married were really slim.

The 5th was important for me because our 4th year of marriage was really hard.  We had our 5th baby already.  Scotts' business was doing great, but he also was never home.  We had a small farming & ranching operation.  Small in that it was Scott, his dad & a few employee's and thousands of acres of land to farm & hundreds of cows to manage. I had 5 children 5 yrs & younger and was in complete survival mode.  When Scott was home, he was amazing with the kids.  I would take them out to the farm to see him & they loved that & so did he!

The 10th was huge!  I got diamonds on that anniversary & I still wear the necklace.  July of 2000, we had our 7th child who was in a body cast because when he was born his hips were not properly formed so his hips would not stay in the sockets.  So, treatment was 4 months in a body cast.  In the midst of that, I was still struggling with post traumatic stress disorder as a result of the car accident I had 10 months prior.  I was depressed, often had panic attacks or flashbacks of the accident.  I was thankful to be alive to celebrate another anniversary with my husband.  I was even more thankful that he was sticking with me because I was not an easy person to be around during that 18 months.

The 15th anniversary, life was getting even harder than it was during the 10th. Scott's business was gone.  We had filed bankruptcy and watched as the farm equipment was auctioned off.  It was a hard time.  Scott had to start all over & began a new business in Real Estate.  We were told that Real Estate was feast or famine & we totally know what they were talking about.  We have experienced both...mostly famine.  But through all of that, Scott & I grew closer to each other as together we sought the Lord for wisdom & direction.

Today is our 20th anniversary.  On our first anniversary we tried to think of what our life would be like on our 20th anniversary.  Well, it is nothing like what we thought it would be except that Scott & I are definitely more in love with each other now than we were even last year.  We have, together, experienced great difficulty in our lives but our marriage has only grown stronger.  We are best friends.  He is the one I want to tell my good news to first.  He is the only one I cry on. He is the one that can read me better than anyone, even me.  I understand now what that passage of scripture means when it says, "...the two shall become one flesh" Matthew 19:5  Scott & I are one in many ways, even in silly ways like finishing each other's sentences or coordinating our outfits without knowing what the other is wearing.  His pain is my pain & his joy is my joy.  We weep together and we rejoice together.  We celebrate our differences because that makes our relationship even more interesting.  He is a morning person & I am a night owl.  He is spontaneous and I am a planner.  He is risk taker and don't like taking risks.  He stretches me and I stretch him.  In the midst of all our differences comes a love that had to be born of God because I am not capable of love like this on my own.

What's our secret?  God.  We couldn't have made it one year if we had not committed our marriage to God.  We decided the first day of our marriage that it was for the rest of our lives.  We stood before our friends and family & made a vow, but even more important than that we made a vow to God.  Whatever happened during our marriage we would not consider divorce, we would take our troubles to the Lord and let him guide us through and he has done that very faithfully.  God has been faithful to us in spite of our unfaithfulness to him many times.

Thank you Lord for your beautiful gift of marriage and for blessing me with undoubtedly the most wonderful man in the world!

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Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Celebrating the 4th

We had a really busy weekend, but a really good one.
Friday we packed up the van & headed East.  My parents live about 1.5 hours east of us in the big little town of Ben Wheeler, TX.  It is always a nice get away for us from the business of our normal lives.  If we are lucky we can't get cell phone service or internet. :o)

My grandfather has lived with my parents for several years & just recently moved into a nursing home.  While it was a really hard thing to do for my mom, she knew it was time.  My Pop is doing really good & we enjoyed getting to see him.  He has Alzheimer's and doesn't remember who we are anymore, but what old person doesn't like little kids hugging on them?  He loved it!
My Grandfather, "Pop", his daughter(my mom), his grand-daughter(me);  & 2 of his great-grandchildren(Sam & Ben)

Ben is our super affectionate boy & he has always loved on Pop the most.  Pop's big smile say's it all!  
 After we visited Pop, Scott & I took Josh (16 yrs) to SKY Ranch in Van.  My brother, John, has worked there for several summers & was able to get Josh a scholarship to their leadership camp that is up in Colorado!  We were so excited for Josh to have this opportunity.  We dropped him off at the main camp in Van & Sunday night he loaded a bus with several other campers & they drove all night & arrived at Ute Trail Monday afternoon. They will have a lot of fun white water rafting, hiking & sleeping under the stars in between their Bible studies.  For 3 days they will go to Denver & work with an inner-city ministry for the homeless. Then he is on the bus again & headed back for home.

Scott & I then joined the rest of the gang at my parents former church for their annual 4th of July celebration.  We always have a lot of fun and enjoy the fellowship.  We played games, ate lot's of good food & when the sun went down, we watched a really great fireworks show done by guys from the church. It was a great way to celebrate the 4th!

It was hot & humid, but we still had fun!  Me, Scott, Sarah & Gracie.

Austin & his sparkler

Collin being goofy!  He loves fire!

Morgan & Collin.  Collin is the little brother, but not in size anymore!

 Sam did a lot of bug catching while at my parents house.  But his true prize for the weekend were his "wormies" as he calls them.  He was so proud of them & when he woke up the next morning, his first words to me were, "Where are my wormies?"

Sam just couldn't last any longer & crashed soon after we got home on the floor with his wormies.

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